April 02, 2005
What if ..
... your teen already had sex?
If you find out your son or daughter has already had sex, it's important for you to take them to a health care professional to be screened for pregnancy and/or sexually transmitted diseases. Be sure to tell your teen that having multiple partners in their lifetime can be one of the biggest threats to their physical and emotional health.
U.S. federal taxes spend on 4parents.gov,
part of a new national public education campaign to provide parents with the information, tools and skills they need to help their teens make the healthiest choices.
You will love the Conversation Starters. Try this one today:
I was at the store yesterday and ran into Kendrick, Mrs. Jakes' son. He joined the military after high school. What do you think you want to do when you graduate from high school?
"to help their teens make the healthiest choices" - join the military?
Posted by b on April 2, 2005 at 12:17 PM | Permalink
Jesus! This is idiotic. But maybe their target audience is a parent like the mother in the movie Carrie?
Posted by: aschweig | Apr 2, 2005 2:07:58 PM | 1
I also like,
"If your teen decides to stop having sex, some tips you can give them for sticking to their decision to wait are shown below. These tips can also be useful if your teen has not had sex yet...Be Supportive...Ask Questions..Goal Setting...Encourage, Educate and Empower"
I wonder what parents should do if their teen has started having sex, and has decided to continue?
Posted by: aschweig | Apr 2, 2005 2:12:49 PM | 2
"That song has a good beat, but the song makes it seem like having sex makes you a man (or woman). Do you think that's true?"
Well I'm not dumb but I don't understand
Why she walks like a woman but talks like a man
My Lola L-O-L-A Lola
Posted by: Ray | Apr 2, 2005 10:43:26 PM | 3
Just a note. As many of you know, Free Teens USA, an abstinence program that is just one more Front for Sun Myung Moon's Unification church, is now in New York City and New Jersey schools. That's the old news. More interesting is that previously this organization had numerous links to the True Parents Organization (another Moonie front) on their various web sites. These have all recently disappeared. Back in the Fall, I also was able to Google numerous local Unification Church sites in various cities that had posted articles and plans for members to use this organization to recruit young people into the Unification church. Those web pages are gone or not longer working and all TrueParents.org links are no longer working. I am guessing that with federal funding in the millions to this cult abstinence plan through faith based initiaitve $$$$, Moon's group has entered a stealth mode. Bo Hi Pak, Moons loyal second, spent many long years in the S. Korean CIA. He has had numerous connections with local Unification church's involved in teen evangelism through Free Teens USA. The old links to the defunct Free Teens USA program in Chicago that was dropped after the Moonie link became public discusses numerous inspirational visits by Dr. Bo Hi Pak from its inception. All those links are gone now: a very curious development. Links to a another Moonie organization that advocated abstinence have also stopped working.
Posted by: diogenes | Apr 3, 2005 10:53:56 AM | 4
from the posted link:
According to a survey by Seventeen Magazine, 55% of teenagers have tried oral sex. More and more newspapers are reporting oral sex between children at school, during class, on school buses and at parties. In some cases these youth are being charged with sexual crimes. Parents must make it clear to their children that oral sex is as dangerous in terms of disease as is intercourse.
More and more newspapers reporting about oral sex on school buses and in class? I must have missed that.
That said, Britain is apalled at the results of the latest survey (by Bliss magazine) that shows that between 20 and 26 % of 14 year-old girls have had sex, and on average with multiple partners, often under the influence, either of the bottle or what was termed ‘assault’ or ‘coercion’. Usually ‘unprotected’ sex.
That state of affairs is not new -
Part of the cultural attraction of Anglo culture and US hubris has been (post ww2) the adolescent sub-culture of both covert and claimed freedom - e.g. in the US, cars (mobility), violence (self-affirmation), sex (nirvana), drugs, money, clothes, food not prepared at home, scoffs at traditional values and religious strictures - a wealth of dreams coupled with the possibility of on-the-ground, permitted, socially approved, safe, rebellion and predatory greed.
That culture has been exploited for commercial purposes (perhaps adult sexual ones as well, who knows?), encouraged internally, fitting in with entrepreneurship, winning, creativity, personal hubris. It has also been exported for political reasons.
Traditional societies have seen their young people subjugated by Coke, Blondes, bare breasts, fast cars, thrilling music, and all the rest. Dreaming of more, better, different, cool, breeze in their hair... Open doors; but very important.
First, one could say that the present repressive atmosphere is related to the greater medical risks associated with teen sex since 1990 (Aids, sexually transmitted diseases that are hard to cure leading to sterility, etc.) and a growing intolerance for any projected damage, insult, evident all over the shivering, frightened West. Rape is a drama that may damage a woman for ever....A ravine without a protective barrier is a crime that sends a mayor to prison after a little child totters and almost drowns.
Second, the sexual repression is part and parcel of a conservative, nationalistic backlash. A hankering for white supremacy (upper-class supremacy in GB - bit the same), isolationist foreign policy, a return to the fairly glorious 19th, where all were respectable, or if not were just scorned, and child / teen sex (often exploited by adults) was simply hush-hush, undergound, not a matter of either Official concern (except occasionally .. those rotten girls who fell by the wayside - splendid scapegoating and rationalisation) but was not a source of pride and gla’mo.
Authoritarian movements have always turned women into adoring faithful wives, pure girls, innocent cuties, smiling charmingly over hot stoves, stony ground sparsely planted; weeping over dead sons and demolished cathedrals. All who can be made to bow down and obey must. And the young must kneel too, and then rise up with banners, pure and valiant. The Taliban understood this better than anyone. (Moonies trying ..)
Third, any --yes any-- new rules or new norms, arbitrary, strange, irrational, serve to distinguish the chaff from the wheat. Those who proclaim, enforce, agree, watch the nudges and the winks, accept the pittance that comes with the capo hat, the slipped small wad of dollars, the chance to command, to torture, to kill, to coerce, to blame, to spit - ah those can be counted on. The others -- not.
Posted by: Blackie | Apr 3, 2005 4:18:39 PM | 5
Abstinence pledges suck -- literally by Bill Maher
Seriously, when I was a teenager, the only kids having anal intercourse were the ones who missed. My idea of lubrication was oiling my bike chain. If I had known I could have been getting porn star sex the same year I took Algebra II, simply by joining up with the Christian right, I'd have been so down with Jesus they would have had to pry me out of the pew.
Posted by: beq | Apr 7, 2005 2:34:26 PM | 7